5 Simple Ways To Be More Attractive

not backed by science…

Harsh Darji
4 min readNov 6, 2023

Having a beautiful face is hot but having a kind soul is hotter.
Having a banging body is hot but having a brilliant brain is hotter.
Having external success is hot but having internal fulfillment is hotter.

You see, it’s not all about what meets the eye, but the treasure that lies within. I have been guilty of judging a book by its cover. People by their appearances. But like they say you can meet people only as deeply as you have met yourself. So, after a bit of soul-searching, these are the 5 things that instantly turn me on in a person.

1. Empathy & Compassion

The most attractive people are kind even when the world has been unkind to them.
The most attractive people are generous, even when they have little to give.
The most attractive people have an open heart, even when they have every reason to close their hearts.

It tells you a lot about a person when they help someone who has nothing to give back. Helping a stranger with directions. Helping a homeless person with a meal. Helping a friend with the move. Helping a family member with a listening ear. These little things make a big difference and it’s simply so attractive.

via Case Kenny

2. Intellectual Curiosity

Someone who can silence their ego and open their mind is hot.
Someone who is genuinely interested in learning more about you, your passions, your dreams, your desires, and your goals is hot.
Someone who eagerly seeks new experiences, new connections, and new adventures is hot.

My favorite thing about curiosity is that it can be practiced by anyone but an insecure person can never be truly curious.

Check out the blog I wrote — How To Become More Curious

3. Having Boundaries

People who are kind but have no boundaries are not kind. They are just people-pleasers who are constantly seeking validation and most of the time have a hidden motive.

The most attractive people have standards, they have boundaries, and they are not afraid to say no.

You know what’s attractive? Saying no to opportunities that don’t align with your values.
You know what’s attractive? Saying no to unhealthy relationships that suck the soul out of you.
You know what’s attractive? Saying no to yourself. No to your temptations. No to your excuses. No to your self-doubt that’s silently robbing you of the beautiful life you deserve.

via @lizandmollie on IG

4. Living with Passion and Purpose

People with purpose move differently. You can see commitment in their eyes, discipline in their action, and conviction in their voice. When you come across such people, you are instantly drawn to them. Their energy is so magnetic that it lights up your own ambitions and aspirations.
It leaves you with a sense of hope and assurance, almost whispering, “You’ve got this too.”

via Dan Koe

5. A sense of Humor

You know that kind of person, right? The one who doesn’t take themselves too seriously. The one that can make you laugh until your stomach hurts. The one who’s laugh is funnier than the joke itself.

This type of people is rare and they understand that tragedy is the biggest comedy. Your guard naturally comes down, and you’re transported back to that childlike state. You don’t need to play the pretend game anymore. It’s like they’ve given you permission to be yourself. It’s like they accept you with all your flaws. This sense of comfort and acceptance is attractive af.

What are the other things that make some attractive to you? Let me know your thoughts in the comments.

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Harsh Darji

Writer | On a mission to help you heal and expand your consciousness