You Are Allowed to Feel Both Happy & Sad

Embracing Emotional Paradox..

Harsh Darji
3 min readJun 19, 2023

Have you ever felt torn between conflicting emotions, caught in the intricate web of happiness and sadness? It can be challenging to make sense of these conflicting emotions because societal norms often dictate that you should either be happy or sad, but rarely both at the same time. You feel the pressure to choose one emotion over the other or suppress your conflicting feelings altogether. This internal struggle can create a sense of inner turmoil. You feel drained because your emotions are not aligning with what you perceive as “normal” or socially acceptable.

The Yin and Yang of Emotions

There is peace in chaos, growth in loss, stillness in motion, and strength in vulnerability. Similarly, you can both be happy and sad at the same time. These opposing emotions are not mutually exclusive but rather two sides of the same coin. In moments of happiness, there may be a trace of sadness, reminding us of the impermanence of joy and the fleeting nature of life’s pleasures. Similarly, during times of sadness, there can be a glimmer of hope or a sense of gratitude for the lessons learned through adversity. Rather than fighting this duality of emotions, embrace the beauty that lies in it.

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The Beauty of Being Human

The beauty of being human is that you can experience all kinds of emotions and choose what you want to do with them. When you openly accept these dual emotions, you feel a sense of profound strength. This tiny shift in perspective is magical. No longer do you question what to do with these emotions; instead, you relish the fact that you can feel them so deeply. It becomes a testament to your humanity, a reminder of your capacity for both vulnerability and resilience. You begin to recognize that it is through the full experience of emotions that you truly come alive.

The Path to Inner Balance

  1. Practice Self-compassion: Release the pressure to choose. Allow yourself to feel, to acknowledge the vast spectrum of emotions that reside within you. It can be scary, yes, but it is through the experience of these emotions that we grow and heal. Embrace the uncertainty and trust that you have the strength to face whatever arises.
  2. Embrace impermanence: Remember that emotions are transient and ever-changing. Just as happiness and sadness can coexist, they can also evolve and shift over time. Trust in the fluidity of emotions and embrace the knowledge that even in moments of sadness, happiness can still be found and vice versa.
  3. Engage in self-reflection: Take time to reflect on your emotions, their origins, and their impact on your life. Understand the underlying reasons for your mixed emotions and explore how they may be influencing your thoughts and actions. Self-reflection can help you gain clarity and insight into the coexistence of happiness and sadness.

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Harsh Darji
Harsh Darji

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Writer | On a mission to help you heal and expand your consciousness

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